THE PROS AND CONS OF A GODLY RELATIONSHIP.
The standpoint of every godly relationship should be based on godly principles. A relationship cannot be termed ” godly” yet, stray out of the confines of the Christian doctrines. It should rather be embedded in Christ.
In our society today, the whole essence of dating is abused. Most people believe that the sole aim of a relationship is for sexual satisfaction and mere expressions of lustful feelings. Such ideology cannot be termed ”godly” because it antagonizes the will of God towards relationships. Now, what is the will of God towards a godly relationship? The will of God includes the pros the society at large expects from every believer in a relationship.
There is no point entering into a relationship when you don’t have the plans of getting married. Weird right? A fellow should be close to a marriageable age before considering a relationship. Feelings are not enough to get into a relationship. Dating someone for over five years is a risk because you will be prone to getting into immorality. It is expected of every believer to be at least three years close to marriage before considering a relationship.
A Godly relationship should aim at giving room for partners to know, and understand each other completely before getting married.
This can only be achieved when partners are opened to each other in most area of their lives. A relationship should not be built on lies and secrets to avoid marital blows after marriage. from my own experience.
There should be thorough exposure to family background, foundational problems, and family history.
In some families, there might be issues of reoccurring death, inability to give birth in wedlock and so many foundational problems. If partners are opened to each other, they will be able to pray and break every foundational issue before marriage.
The relationship should not be a secret affair. The church should be aware that sister A and brother B are in a relationship, especially a pastor. Because at one point or the other, the need for a spiritual head to counselling both parties might be needed. Parents of both partners should also be aware of the relationship.
The scripture says: ”flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body”. The scripture above stresses a prominent con of every godly relationship-” sexual sin”.
Sexual sin is something the Lord abhors greatly and as Christians, maintaining a godly relationship entails; pursuing righteousness and pleasing God. The goal of every godly relationship is marriage and marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will Judge. Entering into a relationship should not be based on getting a sin partner. Most Christians in a relationship might find it difficult to manage their emotions and the devil can use this as a tool against them. Partners with weak emotional strength should not engage in kissing, caressing, spending days together in a room and meeting together in closed doors because they might be easily tempted.